His Coy Mistress

1979

Had we but world enough and time,

This coyness, lady, were no crime.

We would sit down, and think which way

To walk, and pass our long love’s day.

The Professor recites from memory, his voice sheer vibration against my naked rib cage, a husky purr in my ear. I’m curled on his lap, my skinny legs hooked over the edge of his favorite easy chair, head against his chest, hands linked around his neck. There’s a smile on my face; I enjoy when he reads to me.

“Marvell’s admonishment, of course, forms a rebuke to his lady love who, he believes, is allowing precious time—and perhaps youth and beauty—to slip away with every moment of inaction. He can feel, as he says later in the poem, Time’s winged chariot hurrying near, and urges her to reconsider her stance of remaining at arms length when she could be engaging in, well, shall we say, love-making of a more fleshly sort. What?” he asks, drawing in his chin so that he might look down at me. His white beard prickles at my forehead. “What’s so funny?”

It’s true that I’ve begun to chuckle—not something I often do with clients. When someone pays for my time, it’s usually because they have an agenda; they’re more absorbed in having me act out and reinforce their desired scenarios. My interior monologue is not supposed to interrupt. The Professor is different, though. He calls the shots, but since I know he revels in my delight, I’ve no qualms in showing it. Sleepily, I respond, “Which of us is supposed to be the coy mistress and which the poet?”

He harrumphs, as if the answer is obvious. “In my silver-haired role as the elder, I…”

“Look,” I interrupt. “I’m the one who’s naked.” I gesture to my pale body, lying across him, then tug at the outermost layer of his clothing. It’s in the mid-forties outside, but here in his den, The Professor has his wood-burning stove blazing at a high enough temperature that in nothing more than my birthday suit, I’m roasting. Yet as always, he’s still wearing a nubbly sweater vest, a plaid dress shirt, and though he’s been retired for several years, a necktie. His only concession to the informality of our situation is a pair of house slippers instead of shoes. “I’m ready to go.” I guide his hand to the half-stiffness between my legs. “You’re the coy one.”

“I?”

“Thou!”

I’ve flustered him. I’ve always thought he resembles Professor Plum from my edition of Clue, his body a stack of rotund globes decorated like a snowman with spectacles and a white fringe around his bald dome. When he huffs and puffs his reddened cheeks, I half-expect him to accuse me of murdering Mr. Boddy with my lead pipe. “Coy!” I almost fly off his lap as he sits up straight in the armchair. Beneath that gray mustache, though, his lips quiver with amusement. His knees spread, revealing the tent in his woolen slacks.

Now that I’m on my feet, my buttocks broiling from the heat of the wood stove behind, I strike a pose. My hands drape across my pale-skinned nakedness as if I’m a Botticelli maiden, nude but preserving her virtue; I draw up a thigh to half-obscure my dangling erection. A Mona Lisa smile on my face, I look half-away from the man and slowly turn, so that he can admire every inch of my body.

“Oh, Kip,” he whispers, using the name by which clients know me.

Slowly, I revolve on the ball of my foot with the cruel deliberation of someone who understands the power of his beauty.

It’s not a sensation I often feel. School’s a constant reminder that I’m tallest, gangliest, and whitest of the students, a gawky anomaly loping through the hallways with books in hand and head hung low. There I’m an outsider, unsightly and a waste of space. At home, I’m told that good grades and accomplishments are more worthy than looks. The lectures feel like my parents settling for some sort of sad consolation prize.

Here though, as I model before the man and see the white planes of my slender body reflected in his lenses, I can view myself through the eyes of a man who shells out several twenty-dollar bills for my unclothed presence. To him, I glow. I am the naked youth who delights in flaunting his charms. I am poetry made luminous. His infatuation is more powerful than any narcotic.

“Come,” he at last whispers, beckoning.

The urgency in his voice stiffens my cock. Up and down, it dowses the den carpet as I pad back to him. The Professor receives me with soft hands on my skin. His face dives into the crook of my neck, where he inhales deeply of my soapy scent. With the utmost gentleness, he settles me once more across his lap, my head nestled against his scratchy sweater.

From the table adjacent, he pulls a familiar volume. “Let’s assay something much more modern, shall we?” I nod. He opens to the bookmark we left the last time I visited, and he begins reading to me from Tristram Shandy.

My path from scrappy, self-taught hustler to selective rent boy hasn’t been without a few bumps along the way. When I’d first begun accepting my procurer’s business cards, scrawled across the back with an address to visit, I’d arrive at the appointed time ready to get the action started. Tempus was fugiting, after all, and I had some diem to carpe, or at least an unstated curfew to mind. Very quickly, though, I learn the difference between a twenty-buck trick ready to go by the riverside, and the needs of men accommodating a higher price for my time.

Few of them are paying strictly for sex, I come to understand; they have an agenda beyond beckoning me into the bushes for ten minutes of pleasure. Most of my clients are nervous and even unsure of their desires. If they’d been adventurous spirits, they’d be getting laid for free at the parks or tearooms or by cruising The Block for a young man on the prowl. However, these men don’t court risk.

Out in the wild, they’d have the advantage of choice. Absent that, I swiftly intuit that it’s my job to discover what my clients want. Winnowing out that vision and then becoming the fantasy is something I have to learn on the job, without training. All my life, though, I've cultivated invisibility to avoid bullying. It's made me malleable. Abandoning my own inclinations for someone else costs me no ego.

So for one man I become the submissive. I whimper and plead to increase his excitement. For another, I transform into reluctant and uneducated trade, degrading himself for the cold, hard cash. For some, I’m the young boyfriend with stars in his eyes, to others, the disinterested cocotte barking orders. None of these roles bother me. Losing my identity in the desires of another feels like sliding into a tub of warm water for a while, then emerging some time later to wipe down and dry off to return home drowsy, sated, and a little wealthier.

The freaks—well, of course there are a handful of freaks. I’m never coerced into enduring situations that make me uncomfortable; I reserve the right to say no. I rarely have to. The men with unusual fetishes by and large don’t bother me. To the older, wrinkled, bald man with a mummification fixation, who coincidentally looks uncannily like a hairless Sphynx cat, I’m the perfect subject; I lie still, arms at my sides, as I allow him to roll my naked body to and fro while he wraps me from collarbone to ankles in dozens of Ace bandages. Once confined, however loosely, I keep silent while he sniffs and licks my feet for an hour or more, masturbating all the while. Sure, the bandages are weird, but I feel swaddled and oddly safe, and there’s pleasure in the warmth of his mouth on my toes and his wet tongue on my soles.

There’s another fellow, from Richmond’s stodgy West End, who takes me to the unfinished basement of his expensive, gated home to dress me in cheap t-shirts and denim. He then sits me upon a webbed patio chair. While I watch, he’ll strip his portly body naked, lie on the dirty concrete, and stroke himself furiously while I do what he loves best: tear cap after gunpowder cap from a roll of red paper, tuck it beneath the domed, blunt head of a cap dart, and throw it between his thighs so that on impact, it explodes with a loud retort. He keeps a bucket of darts specifically for this purpose, but once I exhaust them, I’ll have to scoop them up, toss the spent cap papers onto the floor, and start all over again.

Eventually, when the air is acrid with gunpowder smoke and my ears ring from the firecracker pops, the man will heave his body upright and climax, spilling his seed atop the mess of dust and blackened, used caps. I’m never sure exactly what excites my patron about the scenario. Is it the scent? The mild danger of explosives so close to his testicles? Or am I a mere mannequin he’s posing in a recreation of some childhood trauma—an older brother or a bully who titillated, even as he frightened? I’ll never know, but in those chilly hours in the man’s basement, I sit in the costume my client prefers and perfect my aim until I can nail my imaginary bullseye, time after time.

But for the majority of my clients, I discover—half or more—I’m there for conversation. I strip down to my birthday suit, climb into bed or cuddle up on a sofa, and listen to men talk about their lives. Old men recall to me their youths and past loves; I hear stories of how and where men used to find each other in the decades before I was born. Some men chat about their work while I feign interest. A small handful fritter away their time complaining of being unloved, unrecognized, under-appreciated.

I may have entered the business assuming men were paying for my body. I learn that attention is what they truly need. And I, with my eagerness to erase myself in their lustful regard, am more than happy to form the flawless mirror to reflect their desire.

“Choose something,” urges The Professor. I’m still naked, padding over the braided carpet to the bookcases that line his den. Much like in my own home, books occupy every room here. If a case to hold them can be made to fit, he’s done so. We always end our encounters thusly: he reads aloud to me with a book in one hand and my semi-erect cock and balls in the other, then I’m urged to pick a volume to take home. I don’t really require encouragement to read—I'm already one of those boys who loves books. Neither do I really need The Professor’s library; my mom has collected British novels all her life, and I possess a library card. He enjoys the intimacy of sharing, though, and maybe the responsibility of broadening my mind.

Secretly, I also wonder if it’s a way of ensuring I’ll come back, to return what he’s lent.

Already I’ve read his copy of Forster’s Maurice, only recently published despite being written decades before. He’s opened my eyes to Woolf, both with Orlando and To the Lighthouse. I’ve checked out Gulliver’s Travels and finished Nicholas Nickleby, after he’d begun reading it during our meetings. On my own, I’ve previously read the Brontës and Austen. My eyes dance along the spines, scanning title after title, as I try to make my selection.

“The contemplation of beauty,” whispers The Professor in my ear, as his soft hands caress my backside, “causes the soul to grow wings. Plato.” I feel his breath on the back of my neck.

I chuckle because he’s a bit of a pompous ass, both for quoting and naming Plato, but it’s hard to fault the sentiment. Besides, I like the shivers he tickles forth with his fingertips. The bookcase rocks slightly as I press my hands against it and arch my back, presenting the man my butt to do with as he likes.

But touching is all he’ll ever do. Touching and looking, and sighing at those parts of me he finds delightful. “How you tease, my coy mistress.”

“It’s not me who’s teasing,” I say, returning to my feet. I’ve chosen Uncle Silas to take home, mostly because Harriet Vane enjoys Le Fanu in Dorothy Sayers’ mysteries.

“Coy,” he rebuts, laughing to himself as he nods with approval at the title. “Let’s get you dressed.”

At fifteen, I’m already taller than The Professor by a good six inches. When he turns away, I spy something new and unexpected: a knot protrudes behind his ear, speckled and ugly. A crusty scab decorates the top. It’s roughly the size of a deviled egg half, seemingly slipped beneath the fringe of white hair ringing his scalp. Though I want to recoil, my heart beats faster as I reach out. I’d not noticed the injury when I’d been lying on his lap. “What—?”

The Professor flinches at my touch, then spins around. “Interesting fellow, Le Fanu. Not widely appreciated these days, of course, but the man really was a pioneer in the genre of…”

“James,” I say, speaking his name. It’s not a liberty I often take. Kids my age don’t address adults without an honorific like mister or doctor. Sexual intimacy cannot completely break down that taboo. Not even with my clients. I shut my mouth, though, when his shuttered lids lift to reveal something I recognize: a fear of being judged.

I’ve always known that I’m not the only trick The Professor pays for his time. I satisfy some side of him that needs to look at a naked youth and allow his hands freely to wander; I’m there to strip and model and allow him to indulge his avuncular instincts. He has a darker side, though, that needs debasement. My vice, he calls it. In the most delicate of terms, The Professor has let me know before that he also pays trade—rougher, more traditionally macho men, particularly those that give off an aura of danger—to rough him up and penetrate him in a way he craves. I know the welt is a souvenir of one of those visits.

It’s not the first. My vice is something in which he indulges infrequently, but it nearly always leaves a mark. I’ve seen other bruises before, especially around his neck and wrists. Once, the remnants of a black eye. It’s not right. It’s dangerous. Seeing that welt and the violence it implies makes me want to run in the opposite direction.

Yet I need to fix this. I cannot look at affliction without wanting to soothe what is swollen, to mend what’s broken, to smooth the ragged edges and sweep away the debris. “Why don’t you let me…instead of…” Already I know the idea’s as stupid as I am inarticulate. “If you need…that…I could try to do it.”

“Kip.”

“I know how!” In theory, anyway. When he looks away, turning his head so I can’t see the lump, I grow more insistent. If only he’d asked. If only he hadn’t wasted his time with a thug. I would have tried. “You wouldn’t even have to pay me. It would be, you know. Safer. I don’t like when you…”

“Kip.” All the usual good humor in The Professor’s voice has vanished.

“But…”

His head jerks to the side. Waits. Then snaps to the other. It’s the simplest and sharpest no I could have received. “Kindly say nothing more of my vice.” The words burn with frost.

The head-shaking had been a rebuke. This is a slap to the face. I shut my mouth and say nothing more. I’ve overstepped.

It only takes a simple change in tone to remind me of what should have been uppermost in my mind: The Professor and I are not equals. My likes and dislikes don't matter. I’m not in his home as a friend. I’ve forgotten that during the hour or two I'm with the man, I’m ornamental. Nothing more. I’m only as essential as the blown glass paperweight sitting on the man’s roll-top desk, and just as easily replaced. He’d sooner seek wisdom from one of the miniature plaster busts of the Great English Poets adorning his bookcases, than from me.

My dumb idea would never have worked. Accustomed though I am at transforming into what my clients need, there are limits. I can never been the streetwise thug with hair on his burly chest, not the greasy garage worker, not the mustached leather man from the Village People. I’m what men call chicken, the flip side to that coin. Safer isn’t what he wants. As much as I might wish, I can’t fulfill that fantasy of hypermasculinity that brings out the sexual submissive in him.

He can tell I’m deflated. “Don’t worry about an old fool like me.” His spirit artificially light, he takes my fingertips in his grasp and cajoles me back to the chair. “Let me watch you dress, before you go,” he pleads, sitting. I allow him to remove his book from my clutch, as with the gentlest of touches he propels me to the room’s center. “Slowly,” he adds.

He’s forgiven me, but in future I’ll take care not to cross that line again. I fish my t-shirt from the floor where earlier I’d flung it. It’s inside-out, so I wrangle it back into shape.

“Underwear first,” he orders.

I have little choice but to obey. Instead of dropping the tee, I drape it over my shoulder and retrieve my briefs. I slide one leg through a hole, then another, slowly, focusing on his appreciative gaze. Once the elastic is snug around my waist, I rest my long fingers of one hand upon my hips and hold onto the draped shirt, with the other. Then I turn, little by little, a full circle, head tilted back so that my long hair tickles my shoulder blades. This is why he's hired me: to be the most perfect trinket to complement his collection.

When I finish, he lets out a small, yearning breath. “A sweet disorder in the dress,” he quotes, “Kindles in clothes a wantonness.” And because he cannot help himself, he concludes, “Herrick.”

I can’t resist a groan. This ornament’s sense of humor has somewhat returned. “Show-off.”

“Perhaps I am. But Kip?” I stand still in my attitude, raising only an eyebrow. I endure a pregnant pause before he continues. “I do appreciate when you call upon me.” My lips force a smile. “Perhaps next time…we’ll have a bit of Keats. Would that be nice?”

Moments before, I hadn’t been sure of a next time. But now I appease him with a more genuine grin and a cheeky view of my butt while I shake out my shirt and slip my arms inside.

“My coy mistress,” he laments, as if drawing a full stop to the evening’s poem.

But in the twilight, the mistress bikes home from The Professor’s home, regretting what must remain unsaid, due to the disparity in their stations: that while the poet has the impudence to chide her for coyness, he does so with words and quotes and rhyme that frivol away both the precious minutes they spend together and what limited time he has left, as that fabled winged chariot looms ever close.

A Man Called Mother

Summer 1978

By dusk, he’s perched upon his chosen picnic table top, boots planted on the bench. The seat of his jeans scrapes across splintered wood speckled with faded forest green paint. Wide-spread knees support his elbows as he digs through a pack of smokes. He’s a denim-and-plaid loner who sports a big brass oval of a belt buckle at his waist, a Marlboro cowboy without his horse. A snap of a Bic lighter precedes a flash of flame; moments later, the persimmon kiss of a cigarette tip traces a perfect parabola in the darkness as it rises from calves to his lips, then back again.

Nearby, beneath the pine boards of the park shelter and around its perimeter, simmers a bacchanal of sexual pleasure. At the foot of the same picnic table, one man kneels before another, bobbing above a fistful of dick. Similar clusters have formed around the clearing. Pairs and trios relish each other in the heat of the August night. Other figures wend between the scattered tables, seeking solace from the shadows who loiter against the walls. Some men bide their time, unwilling to settle for the first pair of groping hands or hungry mouth; from figures that barely can be distinguished from the darkness, they choose their target and, like a spider in its web, wait for his approach. A handful haunt this quiet space beneath the wooded pines like restless spirits, flitting in nervous circles from soul to soul in search of someone to lay them to rest.

And among the whispers, the whimpers and the sharp intakes of breath, the murmurs of approval and the hushed laughter of men coming to their senses after climax, among the feverish hurricane of courtships and love affairs commenced and abandoned in the space of mere quarter hours, the man atop the table is the tranquil eye at its center.

The men here call him Mother.

Mother. Not because he’s effeminate. Far from it. Not with that ranch hand stance, the deep drawl, the skin of leather. Not with the thicket of mustache perched on his upper lip, meticulously groomed. Mother, not because he’s passive, nor because there’s a Father around who’s the real boss. Here, after hours in the woods of Bryan Park, long after the groundskeepers have ejected the last rowdy rednecks and swept the premises for stragglers, Mother’s word is law. Every man who parks his car in the adjoining neighborhood, who casually strolls the streets as if out for a nighttime walk, then ducks up the embankment to creep across a carpet of pine needles into the park’s forbidden cruising area, knows to abide by Mother’s rules.

He’s not Dictator, though. Not King, nor Chief. Mother, because among this band of outlaws who assemble for their quick trysts, he knows gentle persuasion works best. An appeal to a man’s better nature is a more effective motivator than barking directions. Men don’t mistake Mother’s gentle entreaties as anything less than dominance, though; what we do in these shadows is against every state statute. As criminals, we all fear authority more than we should. So when Mother ousts someone disobeying or flouting our shared conventions, after park hours, they stay ejected. There’s no appeal.

I’d learned Mother’s rules from the start, a couple of years prior, after the notion of park cruising had entered my mind when my mom had read aloud to my father an item from the paper about men being arrested here for public indecency. Instead of receiving the information as a caution, I’d immediately biked over to the park I’d previously only thought of as the gathering place for the annual neighborhood cookout, and scoured every restroom for graffiti that might indicate where the action took place.

It had been less than 48 hours later that I’d made my first appearance at the park’s northernmost shelter, by the light of a half moon. Mother had observed me for several minutes to ascertain that I knew what I was getting myself into before beckoning me to take a seat at his feet. I’d made the mistake of grabbing for him, in a clumsy way, thinking he wanted sex.

Mother has never so much as unzipped his Levis, though, not in all the time I’ve known him. He watches only, observing the trespassing pack around him. He is the guardian who keeps an eye to the east, where the sole road connects this section of the park to the neighborhood beyond, so that he can warn us of a patrol car’s approach. He may stroll around his domain to witness the couplings taking place, but I never see him partake.

That night, he had swatted away my hand and blown twin columns of smoke from both nostrils. “Child,” he began. Normally it was a particularity of address that annoyed me, but in his good-natured rumble it failed to make me bristle. “I’ve seen enough to convince me you know what you’re getting yourself into. But if you intend to come back, there are some things you should keep in mind.”

Apparently the very way I’d entered the park had attracted his displeasure. “We never, ever use the road,” he told me, pointing at the paved stretch running by Youngs Pond and up into these woods, that only minutes before I’d biked along. “Now, there’s no chain across it, like at the park’s main entrance, but that road is still closed after dark. Most people might think nothing of it, but someone with sharp eyes and a suspicious mind,” he said, waving his cigarette at the long row of dimly-lit houses facing Bryan Park Drive, “might see a boy riding his bike into the park. They watch, but they never see him ride out again. And they begin to think. And wonder. They start to worry. They might even worry enough to call out the pigs. That’s what we’re trying to avoid here. Bad things happen when the police come down on us. Capiche?”

I don’t know the last word, but I can glean meaning from context. I nod, and apologize.

“Now, the other night we had the boys in blue up here. Some folks ended up behind bars. All the regulars, the smart ones who know the rules, got away clean—because we help each other. Not a damn thing I can do about dumbasses who’ve got to get in another thirty seconds of fun—thirty seconds they could’ve used getting to safety. You planning on being a smart boy or a fuckin’ dumbass?” When I reply that I prefer the former, he nods with approval. “That’s what we like to hear.”

As men drift by, some shirtless, some with their pants around their knees, Mother lays out his other rules. He doesn’t abide any hustling. Over the following months and years of adolescence in which Bryan Park is a vital part of my life, Mother doesn’t bat an eye at the sex work I do everywhere else. That’s my own business. Within the park bounds, though, I don’t dare. In Mother’s philosophy, transactional sex invites a predatory element into this sacred space. If a man chooses to slip me a few dollars after excellent service, it can be considered a gratuity. Were I ask for it, or worse, demand a payout, I’d be violating one of Mother’s highest precepts.

Mother forbids certain items. The noise from transistor radios might attract attention from the local residents. Same with flashlights, even on the darkest nights. Glass bottles are a distinct danger to our community, though many of the rougher men try to sneak in booze anyway. A beer bottle could be too easily left on a table and knocked off in the dark, only to shatter on the floor and cause an accident. If someone sliced an artery in the woods, no one would have any way of phoning an ambulance or getting someone to a hospital. And the last thing any congregation of homosexuals needs is for their enemies to discover a dead body in one of their haunts.

Cigarettes are fine, and Mother turns a blind eye to the occasional joint, but any harder substances compound our crimes. There’s no fighting allowed. If two men become riled—jealous over a swain favoring one over the other, Mother or one of the regulars steps in to defuse tensions before they rise too high.

Up here, in the dark, in the woods, we are the lawless. We offend one penal code with our intrusion; another by congregating, a third with every proposition, and add to the increasing tally with every casual act of sodomy. Outlaws we may be, but as Mother reminds us, we can still be gentlemen. We cultivate rules for a reason: when we cannot rely upon enforcers of law to protect us, we must defend each other. We may not know each other’s professions or names—not our real names, anyway—nor might we even recognize each other in full light of day. But in the most essential and ephemeral of senses, when together, we form a community.

We call the man Mother, because in this space, no matter our ages or incomes or the color of our skins, sharing a mother makes the rest of us brothers. For a short time.

In my earliest weeks at the park, in my unofficial status as the newest and most tender of meat, I often find myself at the center of a scuffle. Two strangers, each desiring my exclusive company, might attempt a tug-of-war with my arms, or react with raised hackles when I prefer one over the other. I quickly become adept at silently defusing these potential scuffles, either by uniting the men in their attentions and servicing them both, or by placating one with whispered promises to return after I venture into a corner with another. Mother notices, and rewards me with nod or a subtle thumbs-up. 

Weeks into my tenure, once I’ve proven myself, during one of my unoccupied moments he again pats the picnic table and beckons me to sit. Once I’m in position, he places an avuncular arm around me and murmurs in my ear, “How about you stop by my place this Saturday for tea? I’ll read your cards.”

With genuine enthusiasm, I agree. It’s a sign that I’ve been accepted into the tribe.

This is what I half-expect, upon being invited to afternoon tea at Mother’s home: lace doilies, scones, and pale liquid, steaming hot, poured into Mother’s best china. Mother’s home, though, set in a blue-collar corner of Lakeside not far from the park, isn’t exactly the picture-perfect setting for a high tea. From a distance, it looks like a kid’s card house constructed from flat slabs of pitted aluminum siding, precariously perched atop a foundation of cinder blocks, overgrown with honeysuckle.

So what I actually encounter is amber brown beverage both brewed in, and served from, a glass jug that’s been sitting in the back porch sun all morning with a number of Lipton’s tea bags. While my scrawny backside attempts to find a spot on his sofa between the broken springs, I watch as he pours packet after packet of sugar, no doubt collected from fast food joints, into the concoction and stirs in a splash of lemon juice from a bottle. “Let it cool a little,” he advises, after pouring it over ice.

I’m not and never have been a fan of sweet tea served in the Southern style, but it’s a blistering day and tiny sips help alleviate the July heat. While Mother fusses with the jug and places a glass coaster upon the trunk acting as a coffee table, I look around the bare bones of his room. The sofa seems like a curbside find. The television, a black and white model jury rigged with a white wire hanger for an antenna, alternates between rolling snow and a weekend fishing program. Nothing about the furnishings is outright impoverished. Despite the hovering cloud of tobacco smoke, nothing is filthy. But Mother’s home definitely strikes me as the sort of bare-bones set-up of someone struggling to make ends meet—like birds that weave detritus into their nests, it’s a domicile crafted out of makeshift odds and ends.

While I watch him fuss with a packet of Nabisco Cameo cookies, I wonder why I’m even here. Tea, sure. I’d half-expected that to be an excuse for seduction. I wouldn’t mind being bedded today. Mother’s not an unattractive man. So far, I’ve not picked up on any sexual intent in his chit-chat.

“Now,” he finally says, plopping down on the sofa near me. He regards me with speculation over the rim of his glass. “Tell me about you.”

All I can do is stammer and stare. I hate talking about myself, particularly to strangers and in such an open-ended way. I add three years to both my age and my school grade in my inarticulate accounting, to which Mother nods and conceals his amusement with an index finger firmly tamping down his mustache. My baby face gives me away and, if anything, makes me look even younger than I happen to be. I’m so paranoid of exposure that every word from my mouth is a lie. I lie about the neighborhood where I live, the grade I’m in, the school I attend.

It’s not until he changes the subject to my secret life that I hew more closely to truth. When he inquires where I’ve cruised, I enumerate a lengthy list of toilets around town that I’ve discovered on my own—the public library downtown with its peepholes, the glory holes on the university campus where my parents teach. I brag about having walked The Block after dark and loitering in the Hotel Jefferson men’s rooms on weekends. I talk about how I’d begun my sexual career as a lookout in the cruisiest restrooms, observing the action while obstructing potentially hostile intruders, and I take pains to make the experience sound more distant in the past than it actually is.

I’m so voluble on the subject that it’s a few minutes before I notice I’m the only one speaking. Yet I continue, equally as anxious to show off my sexual credentials as I am to hide anything I consider truly personal. Though aware how close I come to braggadocio, I can’t stop. I’m a baby-faced adolescent painting himself as a jaded old roué, desperate for an approval I never knew I so badly needed. I’m a fluffy golden retriever overeager to run with the grizzled wolf pack. Yet I keep talking, though I know I should shut up.

Mother sits at the opposite end of the sofa, wiping condensation from his glass and taking the occasional sip, until at last I run out of words. My jaw hangs low for a moment, then snaps shut. “Well, all right, then,” he comments, amused. “How’s that tea?”

I flush red and try to wash away my embarrassment with a swig of Mother’s evil brew. I’ve just learned a lesson in not overselling myself. Desperate to change subject, I look around the room for any inspiration for a new topic. My eyes alight on a photograph on a shelf over the TV—perhaps the only truly personal touch in the room. It’s a black and white print on glossy stock, edges scalloped, that leans against an empty frame, as if Mother never quite got around to encasing it behind glass. I can barely make out two small figures, children maybe, on a beach. “Who’s that?” I ask, pointing.

Mother’s face falls slack. He stares at the shelf, then back at me, seeming to see neither. Then he stands. “Let’s look at your cards,” he says.

I’m not the only one who wants to keep his personal life private, it seems.

Tarot cards aren’t new to me. It’s the nineteen-seventies. Everyone has an indulgence that’s a little hippie-woo-woo. My mom is heavily into yoga, which in this period isn’t valued so much as a form of exercise or wellness as it is as a key to spiritual transcendence; she’s also convinced she has the power of extra-sensory perception, which she leverages, with little success, to spy upon her partners’ cards in rubbers of bridge. Her best friend, Kay, is heavily into numerology and attends EST workshops. Kay’s kids, whom I have babysat on occasion, devour books about aliens. All my school friends, when they’re not playing Advanced Dungeons and Dragons, are obsessed with the goings-on in the Bermuda Triangle. I have a stylized used Rider-Waite tarot deck myself, gifted me as an afterthought by one of my dad’s students. She’d used to babysit us when I was younger, but she’d abandoned the cards for palmistry, shortly before I outgrew the need for her.

Never before, though, have I known anyone to handle the tarot with such authority. As we sit at the rickety dining table in mismatched chairs, I watch as Mother withdraws his deck from within the recesses of a carved teak box. He juggles the cards together a few times before handing them to me. “Shuffle,” he instructs.

I obey, gratified in a minor way by the eyebrow he quirks when I riffle the deck in what approaches a professional manner, a skill honed by countless after-school rounds of gin rummy with my mother. Then, at his instruction, I cut the deck into rough thirds, restock them, and begin the process again until he’s satisfied. Once I’m done, he takes back the deck and places the top three cards into a triangle with a fourth at the center. “Past, present, future,” he explains, tapping the cards around the perimeter. He turns them face up.

And he begins to read. I no longer remember these three cards once I’ve left the monastic quiet of his apartment. What I recall, however, is the expert way in which he conjures stories and meaning from the colorful medieval images. Details that my eye would miss, he draws attention to and explicates. My dad’s student, the babysitter, always had to pore over a tiny booklet for interpretations of any given card, and even those brief explanations seemed flat and uninteresting, divorced from the cards themselves. Mother’s means of interpretation is personal. He spins a story from the characters on the cards, making the world they inhabit feel occupied and alive.

“This last card is you,” he says, pointing at the triangle’s center before flipping it over. “Two of pentacles. Huh.” He’s resting both forearms on the table, leaning forward to look me in the eye. “I suspect this is a card that’ll be following you around all your life. See how this li’l bastard's got the two coins in his hand? He’s juggling.” His long forefinger darts out to trace the path of a band connecting the globes. “And this? It’s the infinity sign. He’ll be at it a long time. But see how he dances? This ain’t a burden for him. Change comes—change always comes, you know. It’s always on the horizon. Storms brew—see how those distant ships are in danger? Storms rock the ocean, the sun rises and sets, seasons change. Shit happens, some good, some bad. But look at you. You’ve got everything under control. You keep on juggling. You won’t be dropping those balls anytime soon. That’s just how you do. You see it, right?”

The previous three cards haven’t meant much to me, but somehow this image, the two of pentacles, hits home. I’ve always been the kid who keeps dancing, balls aloft and in motion, no matter what happens. I balance my academic responsibilities and my extracurriculars with the secret life that’s often my only joy. I keep in equilibrium my public and private worlds, good boy and bad boy, sinner and saint. On the card, those coins look large and heavy. The juggler keeps on juggling, though, even against a background of storm.

“That mean anything to you?”

I look up from the cards and meet Mother’s eyes, then nod. Though I’m not a true believer in divination, I recognize the truth of that one card. I suspect Mother is a juggler, too.

And though Mother will never know it, that one card will follow me around, the rest of my life.

Though I continue to haunt Bryan Park at night for the next three years, I never learn much more about Mother than a few rumors—how he’d had an influential job at the Federal Reserve until he’d been busted in a park vice raid, years before. How his name and photo had been printed in the Times Dispatch, publicly branded as a sexual deviant. How he’d lost his wife and two children in the aftermath and circled bottom until finding work as a florist’s assistant.

I never know if any of it is true. By the time I graduate from college and return home in 1985, even sleepy Richmond cowers under the long shadow cast by the AIDS crisis. Like so many of the tribe that once danced beneath the stars, Mother is gone. Packs of outlaws no longer congregate in the park, after dark. Those that do, leave in their wake fields of litter—emptied glass bottles of cheap booze, the charred remains of joints, the kind of harder drug paraphernalia that would have been forbidden only a handful of years before. The neighbors become vigilant; the police patrol more often. 

Camelot has fallen. Without Mother and his disciples, what was an idyllic Bedford Falls becomes a Pottersville of sleaze and vagrancy.

Those storms on the horizon, those roiling waters and the ships that flounder upon them, have arrived. As predicted, change has flooded in. So many of my companions have already been swept away in the waters, and those who remain cling onto the wreckage for dear life.

Amidst it all, I dance. I keep the balls in motion. I juggle on, and on.

Mentors arise from the most unexpected places. I’ve discovered mine on library bookshelves, in classrooms, in casual conversations in crowded bars. As a kid, I encountered one as a stranger on the other side of a men’s room glory hole, who offered tips on the culture and etiquette of cruising via a series of penned notes on squares of toilet tissue. Another later taught me the confidence of placing value in what I’d been giving away for free.

And then there was the mentor I met on the cusp between eras, a guardian who nightly sat atop a park picnic table with an eye to the horizon, watching for danger. A kind, quiet man who reminded his band of outlaws that they must remain civilized and treat each other with compassion. Not tyrant, not bully, not drill master. That lost generation called that man Mother.