Friday, March 16, 2012

Open Forum Friday: Favorite Positions

One of the most common questions I get—so common that I really should revisit that idea of creating a FAQ that would cover topics like “How big is your dick?” and the ever-popular “How do you find the time to have so much sex and still do anything else?”—is “What’s your favorite way to fuck?”

My smart-ass answer is, inserted.

No, but really. When it comes to positions, as long as nothing’s causing actual pain or distress (to me, anyway), it’s all good. If I’m enjoying myself, the position in which the pleasure is taking place is pretty secondary to me. I’m not going to stop the proceedings, sniff, and insist that we shift to the downward-facing reverse cowgirl in order for me to have a good time.

If we come right down to brass tacks, however, if I’m control the situation and get to choose how my partners are giving me their holes, I’m going to rely on a few personal favorites of mine. Roughly in order of preference, they would be:


1. The bottom with his butt up, lying down.

I like the intimacy of this position. The angle of my dick and of most asses are at their best alignment here; I don’t have to grope and search for the hole, only to find it about forty degrees away from where I thought it might be. I just spread the cheeks, push, and there it is.

I also like pulling the guy’s legs together and straddling him with mine, giving me maximum penetration. All the warmth of a guy’s skin, from his shoulders to his thighs and calves, is beneath me. If he’s a smaller man than I, and just about everyone is smaller than I when it comes to height at least, there’s a sensation of dominance and power that gets me off.

There’s flexibility too, in this position. If I want to put my weight on the man and grind away, I can. If I want to prop myself up on my hands for some extra maneuvering legroom, it’s simple. Nothing’s there to impede my hip action, and if I want roughly to shove the guy’s legs apart and fuck him that way, it only takes a couple of shoves with my knees.

Most guys can last in this position more or less indefinitely, which is also a plus. And of course, with me on top, the bottom ain’t going anywhere.


2. The bottom with his butt up, on the knees.

For long-dicking—that is, pulling all the way with my cock and then sliding back in again, so that with every thrust the guy feels my entire length invading his hole, rather than just a good three or four inches—this position can’t be beat. The depth of penetration, as well as the total amount of shaft with which it’s possible to penetrate a guy, is superior.

Plus there’s just something about the sight of a man on his knees, face in the mattress or pillow, ass in the air, isn’t there? It’s the ultimate submission. A guy lying on his stomach with his face down might be sleeping. He might simply find it the most comfortable position in which to relax. A guy lying on his back with his legs spread and his knees bent and pointed to the ceiling might be doing naked crunches. When a man assumes the position on his hands and knees, though, there’s absolutely no mistaking what he’s doing, what he expects, and what he truly craves.

The downside of this particular posture is that its success depends quite a lot on the guy’s endurance. If he has a trick knee, or the mattress is particularly hard, he’s eventually going to give out. And that’s no fun.


3. The top on his back, the bottom sitting on his dick.

True confession time: during my teen bottom years, I hated this position. I found it horribly uncomfortable. I’d have to grope around to get the guy’s dick in me for what felt like hours, and half the time the guy couldn’t even keep it up by the time I got him in. It required a certain strength of the thigh and calf muscles to maintain a position that was a little lower than a squat, but not as low as actually sitting down.

As a top, though, I really love it when bottoms can sit on me and ride for a very long time. The depth of penetration is unparalleled. If the bottom grinds just right, going back and forth instead of merely up and down, my orgasms are extremely intense (and, generally, arrive faster than any other position). I don’t have full control over my thrusting, which can be a problem unless the bottom is extraordinarily skilled. And lying on my back is comfortable enough for me that I can enjoy it for as long as the bottom can dish it out.

Plus, I confess it’s kind of hot just to lay back and watch a guy enjoy himself, at his own pace.


Those are my top three. There certainly are others that I enjoy—both of us lying on our sides, standing up with the bottom bent over. There are exotic positions—bottom pinned against the wall with his legs wrapped around the top’s waist while the top fucks him face-to-face standing up, or an upside-down bottom being fucked by a top who is standing normally while his dick is being bent down to point to the floor—that look hotter in porn that they work out in real life, unless the bottom is extraordinarily small.

And there’s one position that I find less enjoyable—though still a hell of a lot of fun—with most men, which is missionary, with the bottom on his back and his legs in the air. A lot of men like it because of the intimacy of being able to kiss during the act, and look into each other’s faces. I get that. It’s also easy to pin down a bottom, missionary-style. I enjoy it at the edge of a bed, if the bed is at a height at which I can stand without being on tippy-toe the entire time. I enjoy it when the bottom is unusually flexible. It was my favorite position to fuck Spencer, for example, because his dancer’s legs would fold back as if they were hinged, and he’d hook his prehensile toes onto the headboard. The Runt is good at it, too. If the guy and I end up wrestling against each other to see who’s going to be more off-balance during the missionary position, though, I’d rather just skip it.

I’m not every man, though, or even every top, and everyone has his preferences when it comes to position. On this Open Forum Friday, I’m asking you guys to let everyone know which positions are your favorites. What are the old standbys to which you turn when you’ve got your clothes off and your mojo on? Which ones do you avoid, and for what reasons? And are there any exotic Kama Sutra-like tantric postures I should know about?

Share it all in the comments!

26 comments:

  1. So I'm thinking next time I get an itch to bottom and want you to scratch it, I need to try riding you. I used to be really good in that position, and I think it is partly because I played catcher in baseball most of my young life and got really good at squatting and rising.

    I love that second position as well for long-dicking. I can get into a great rhythm of pulling almost all the way out and slamming home that I love. And sometimes I will pull myself up into a crouch behind the guy and really go to town (been told that is called "froggy style"). When a guy is flat on his stomach I love the creative angles I can get with my penetration just with a simple shift on my part.

    I do like face-to-face with a guys legs on my shoulders, but I find that a hard position to keep long unless the guy can really bend. The ass just isn't in the right spot and I can't get as deep. I like that for vaginal sex though. My best position for face-to-face is with one leg up and one leg down so I'm splitting the guy. But again, if he isn't flexible and helping hold his legs up, I can't go long without getting hurt from the pressure.

    I think that about covers it. A little exhaustive. And now I'm hard thinking of riding you.

    -Ace

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    1. I like face-to-face for vaginal sex, but it's never been my top choice for anal because the angles are just wrong for the way my dick points. I try to compromise with the one-leg-up position, too. That's a little easier, especially if he's on his side.

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    2. I totally agree. I have a kind of interesting story about a woman I was helping experiment in anal sex with. She had never been in a position that wasn't face-to-face before during insertion, so when I had her face away from me, she was a little uncomfortable with it at first. But I explained and demonstrated that it was a better angle and easier for both of us.

      And for one leg up, I like the guy on his side too. And if he is facing the right way, the way my cock bends can actually make every movement rub the prostate, so it is a bit of a bonus.

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  2. For me, my favorite position for taking cock is laying on my side, top leg bent and bottom leg straight with the top stradling my bottom leg. It allows the deepest penetration and is pretty comfy for both. Next to that is me laying on my stomach with the top laying on my back. I really do love the intamacy of that one. I also do like to sit on a guys dick and ride till his balls are completely drained. But in all truth, as long as he can get his hard cock DEEP in my tight ass, I'm happy. I admit it, I'm just a big old cock whore. ;-) and I like it :-)

    Craig

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    1. Craig,

      When I've bottomed as an adult, that's my favorite position to take it, too. I like fucking that way, a lot!

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  3. Ask and you shall receive as the saying goes. Thanks for the blog and answering my question.

    As I said in my email I like the man to be in the dominate postion above me, so riding his dick is not my favorite which I've rarely done, so would not have the leg muscles for it....lol

    But (no pun) I would be face down and butt up as my favorite and which most have been.

    My very first time was missionary with a coworker.

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  4. Hi Rob,
    Thank you for letting us know what is your favorites positions to fuck somebody but i know that you enjoy them all.
    My two favorite position, are being on my back and having my legs up showing my butt and doggie style. Just love the feeling it gives me. The riding one is coming soon. I would try anyone that you want on me. I trust you all the way on that...

    Yves

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    1. Yves, we'll give them all a try and see which works best for us.

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    2. Rob,
      I am up for it my sexy friend. Now i will need to have another vacation and get my bubble butt over there.

      Yves

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  5. Most of the times I prefer lying with my face down because there's more chance my prostate gets some extra fun. On the other hand then I can't see the top working hard and hopefully enjoying fucking me which adds to my pleasure as well.
    You know what: let's change positions once in a while and be happy!
    Thanks for inserting your answer!

    Jelle.

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    1. Jelle, you and I see eye to eye on this one!

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    2. Rob, how I wish we literally could see eye to eye. And then I would turn around of course....

      Jelle

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  6. Due to some extreme insecurities, I rarely top, but when I do, I have the most success when the bottom is lying face down. Probably because I learned to masturbate (thank you, Boy Scouts of America!) Using the pillow hump technique.

    When bottoming, it's all about giving the maximum amount of pleasure to my top. Whatever I can do to ensure that he is able to let go and enjoy himself without holding back is my ultimate goal. You can't hurt me; you're not gonna rip me in two. I'm a big boy and I can handle whatever you dole out.

    I derive pleasure from giving pleasure, but when it comes down to brass tacks, what I really want is my legs over his shoulders, chests pressed together and arms wrapped fully around when he delivers the ultimate gift.

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    1. Drew, it's interesting that we both have a preference for the bottom to be lying face-down, and we both started as pillow-humpers. It was a very, very long time before I figured out I could actually use my hands on my dick.

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  7. My favorite position is in a sling, getting my ass pounded...

    ErieBear

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  8. I love standing to fuck...whether it is at my sling or the end of the bed. Depending on the height of the bed, his being on all fours usually is the perfect allignment. And I do love to see the guy in that position. Waiting for me insert...

    With higher beds, the bottom on his back is just fine. Standing seems to give me a wider ranger of movement. I can fuck from more angles and vary the rhythms with ease.

    I've tried just about any position you can name, and I don't hate any of them. Some just work better than others--but that is mostly about the guy I am with---his flexibility, stamina, etc....

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    1. I like standing too, but I find that most bottoms I fuck are just too short for me to get the angle right, and I can't go very long bending to insert up and in. I actually hurt a bottom this past Thursday trying that. The guys was a good 4-5 inches shorter than me and the angle was just not good on his hole. A sling would have helped immensely, I suspect.

      -Ace

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    2. FP, I really like standing while the guy's on all fours. I might have to be on tiptoe for it, but it's my favorite standing position, outside of a sling.

      But you're right. No position is hateful, and a lot of it depends on the guy and his frame, flexibility, and endurance.

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  9. Funny how personal these preferences are... I think my rankings of those positions are the exact opposite of yours; I almost always cum too fast fucking face to face and save it for after all the other, inferior positions are exhausted. And I find being ridden so uselessly unarousing (unless there's amazing chemistry, the guy has a fantastic body, and we've already been boning for an hour or two and my dick has turned to permasteel) that I can barely stay hard for it.

    I will say that it depends on the guy though. Tall guys I gotta fuck from behind; little guys I can throw around into any position.

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    1. CoolTop,

      There are definitely bottoms who are lousy at the sit-and-spin position. If the bottom just sits there and moves around a little, I'm not going to enjoy it that much. If he gets some up-and-down motion going, though, that's all I need to shoot one inside.

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    2. I think I'm just a control freak... I just gotta be doing the thrusting. Years ago I discovered while beating off that there's gotta be some kind of sympathetic nerve thing going on there, because just thrusting, even if nothing is touching my dick, makes me really, really hot and tingly. Just the strain of those muscles is doing something to my dick, and I really miss it when it's not there. A guy who has to sit on my to take my bone is a definite erection-killer; it fills me with despair, despair! Luckily most guys are happy to be pummeled into the mattress instead.

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  10. You've so got me pegged with the description of the bottom's needs in position #2. The need to submit, a craving to be used by the top for his pleasure. Just assuming the position and waiting to feel the full length of his cock slamming in and out of my hole is a huge turn on for me. I got a raging hardon just from reading your description of it. Writing this has gotten me even harder.

    Thanks a LOT!!

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    1. Just think what I could do in person!

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  11. I have recently come back to bottoming. I love to be face down, ass up, especially if there is a big mirror handy to see my top pistoning in and out of my hole. I also love to sit on top, where I am in complete control of milking the cum out of a guy in the most explosive orgasm he's ever had. Even better when we have an audience!

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  12. I have recently come back to bottoming. I like it face down, butt up, near a big mirror so that I can see my top's cock sliding in and out of me. I also love to sit on top, where I can use my ass muscles to coax the cum out of his balls. Or being pushed against the wall being taken from behind. It's even better with an audience!

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